I think to be accurate, these people found her leaking details of her sexual life “shameful”, rather than the act itself. On one hand, I admit that leaking your private life out in the public isn’t something I agree on, on the other hand, it’s just SEX.

I think Singapore’s society have been far too repressed when it comes to the topic of sex. It’s unhealthy for people to be repressed about something so beautiful and natural to us. Even Christianity, a very uptight community doesn’t find sex offensive. In fact, recently a Dallas pastor challenged married hetrosexual couples to a 7 days sex challenge. There’s no shame in the act of sex.

I know what some of you might be thinking at this point, Maia Lee’s sex life. But that’s not really the topic I want to go into, because her sex life is not really for us to judge.

I wish that the government would do more sexual education in Singapore schools, to educate these young little rose buds about the birds and bees.

Proponents of comprehensive sex education, which include the American Psychological Association, the American Medical Association,the National Association of School Psychologists, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Public Health Association, the Society for Adolescent Medicine and the American College Health Association, argue that sexual behavior after puberty is a given, and it is therefore crucial to provide information about the risks and how they can be minimized; they also claim that denying teens such factual information leads to unwanted pregnancies and STIs.

Taken from Wikipedia’s entry on Sex Education

It is the government’s responsibility to educate and mould a nation of people that practices safe sex and healthy living. I understand that Asian societies are more conservative when it comes to topics such as sex, but do we really want our society to make SEX into such an unspeakable topic that even healthy hetrosexual married couples have problems with their sex life and have no one to confide in because it’s too embarassing?

I’m not promoting for more SEX in this city. I’m against having pornography legalized for the same reason why I feel Cartoon Network should stop showing sleezy teen flicks that talk about sex all day when their target audience is mostly under 10years old.

Of course, it is difficult where to draw the line when it comes to such sensitive issues. But we should and we can definitely do more to bring awareness to topics related to sex such as contraceptives and HIV prevention.

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However, single mothers that love their children would not harm their children on any level more than a typical nucleus family (a father and a mother) with problems. “Jia jia you ben nan yan zi jing” – everyone family has its own problems.

In Maia Lee’s pregnancy case, if you wish to blame Maia Lee for making the choice of potentially hurting her children, how about blaming the guys for knocking her up in the first place? And if Contender Asia contestant, Zidov, actually plays a father’s role in the child’s life, as he promised, then what is the problem? The kid will have a mother and father that does not live together, like millions of other families in the world.

What I’m disgusted at, however, is how people are critising Maia Lee for NOT going for an abortion. Who are these people to say “This baby is better off dead than being brought up by a perceived unfit mother”.

What’s wrong with you people? When we say women have the right to chose because it’s their own body, we gave them (us) the right to chose to abort the child OR keep the child.

If we can predict that the child would live an unhappy and unbalanced life, and thus feel that Maia should have aborted the child… then what about other cases whereby it is scientifically proven that the child would lead an unbalanced life?

Parents have a known congenital disease. They should not be allowed to have children so as not pollute our gene pool with defective humans? Parents that are retarded? Parents that are mentally or physically handicapped since they probably can’t give their children a “normal” lifestyle? So handicapped, diseased and retarded people should be sterilized by the government?

Are Singaporeans Nazis at heart? Do we really want to go down this slippery slope, feeling all morally high and mighty telling others to abort (some might say murder) their unborn child because they don’t approve of their mother?

Calling Maia Lee a whore for sleeping with a man she met for a few months… seriously.. if you really wish go hold a banner and stand outside the other known pubs in Singapore for men to get laid and women engaging in one night stands. And why aren’t we calling Zidov a bastard for sleeping with his girlfriend? I understand that we’re still an Asian society and that our traditional morals force us to put the blame on the women – a.k.a. it’s fine for men to sleep around with many women, he’s a Casanova. When women have sex with their boyfriends of one month, she’s a whore.

It’s just ridiculous the double standards especially when what we’re debating here isn’t about casual sex, it’s about men not getting the same kind of stigma as women even though they engage in similar or worse acts. Perhaps this is Singapore, and we all secretly love to read about these scandals in newspapers and magazines but are too ashamed to admit that everyone is doing it. We feel these people (like Maia Lee, Edison Chen, Gillian Cheung, Cecilia Chung etc.) should be shamed even though these are fellow humans that have only done human things – have sex.

Incase anyone haven’t read about the news The Electric New Paper has a story on Maia’s pregnancy

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After clicking on Ping.sg and reading another blog post about this news and the comments it received, I was surprised.

Why is everyone condemning her so badly instead of congratulating her? Why are we so quick to cast our judgment on her and her decisions? Are we seriously going to give her dirty looks because she slept with another man that is not her husband?

Had Maia gone for an abortion to keep it hush-hush, would people be happier?

But it doesn’t matter what others think. If you live your lives based on the happiness of others, what is your life worth?

Why I wasn’t surprised that Maia Lee’s baby’s father is Zidov…. because I knew that Maia hanged out with the contestants of the Contender Asia. She practices Muay Thai, like myself. I’ve met her a few times during the Contender Asia filming and she was really friendly~ (and she’s got very big beautiful eyes too). So she might have gotten close with Zidov and slept with him, so what? I’m not for casual sex, but I don’t believe in speculating the nature of their sex lives and be so quick to judge that she’s a whore.

How could some people say she’s trying to get attention?! Which part of getting pregnant with a guy you went out with is trying to get attention? Shit happens. Maybe the condom broke. But accusing her of getting pregnant to get attention? Are you crazy or do people have some kind of warped concept that when celebrities get pregnant it’s to gain attention?

The only thing I have to say about Maia being pregnent is… she should have done more about contraception if she did not intend to have a baby. And this advice goes out to all other ladies out there, go have a talk to your doctor about all the different kind of contraceptives there are.

And for the records, Zidov is a hot guy… so the baby should be blessed with good looks

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