on Mar 10th, 2010Jack Neo – Women Not Enough
Wow Wow. Looks like another women came out to confess she had an affair with Jack Neo a few years ago, Foyce Le Xuan – what kind of name is that ?! It’s like voice but with a V. Strange.
According to AsiaOne’s Shin Min Daily News reported that there have been 11 women Jack Neo has been sleeping with. He really find “women not enough” right? Apparently, some of them slept with him to get bigger roles in the filming industry.
You know what, after this news is leaked, I bet there will be many fame crazy girls trying to sleep with Jack Neo. All these girls, including Jack Neo, should get themselves checked for STDs and HIVs. Once upon a time, we ignorant Singaporeans thought that only the Hong Kong and Hollywood filming industries were covered with so much dirt and sex scandals, apparently it has been happening in Singapore too.
When Edison Chen leaked his sex scandal videos, he had such a negative response that he had to flee the country. I’m wondering now… why Singaporeans are not boycotting Jack Neo’s films? Previously, his wife said she will close one eye about his affair… My guess is, she has been closing two eyes.
Besides George Yeo, here’s another MP being bombarded for his support and remarks on Jack Neo –
http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/what_bugs_me/332218/not_right_to_say_that_jack_neo_affair_is_unavoidable.html
It’s scary how Singapore news is so sensationalised as the gah-men attempts to instill some sort of morals within Singapore’s citizens without bothering to find out the true motivations.
People just like to read scandals, point fingers from afar and can’t be bothered to appreciate the beautiful complexities of human relationships by understanding the root of the problem face-on.
Singaporeans are just so good at voyeurism; some sort of sick, twisted perverse joy in reading up about others’ demise with no real intention to resolve, reflect and learn.
It’s disgusting…
That being said, there is no real need to boycott his films because being a director is just a goddamn job. Even the coffee-shop uncle making the best teh-O in Singapore could be practicing infidelity… does that mean we shouldn’t buy coffee from him?
His films should be judged by merit alone, not drag in the director’s personal life. Those who defend with “oh but he’s a public figure blah blah”, it’s your own bloody fault for idolising someone so blindly in the first place. Bill Clinton had a fiasco with Lewinsky… does that mean he didn’t do his job well as a President?
Also, our darling newspapers such as TNP and whatever Mandarin papers simply LOOOOOVE to tap into news which involve sex scandals or just sex itself. Men who practice infidelity = wrong. Women who fuck around = slut. Women who forgive their husbands for infidelity = stupid. Men who forgive their wives for fucking around = henpecked. Complete with a huge picture of blurred faces and boobs smacked in the middle of the article.
So much compartmentalising, so much entertainment, so little meaningful discussion. It’s so easy to place these people in categories just to make us insecure lovers feel better and do the whole “point fingers from afar” rubbish. Such an obscenely rigid view on whose body belongs to who.
For the bulk of people who gawk at Neo’s wife for being daft and too forgiving, look at your own little insecure love life, if you even have one. How long have you been running away from your failed relationships without learning anything? How much unnecessary drama did you have to stir up when you found out that your partner was cheating on you? When was the last time you actually asked yourself, “what’s wrong with me” and not “what’s wrong with him”?
Those who are quick to rage and divorce their partners upon finding out that they’ve been cheated on, obviously had a relationship comprised of power-play with emphasis on redundant, subconscious rules such as equal treatment or tit-for-tat, not love and understanding. Perfect example, celebrity husband-basher, Quan Yi Feng. Scary thing is that she’s hosting a talkshow on Channel 8 for women’s rights. Heh.
Last I heard, the Neos have gone for marriage counselling. It’s not uncommon for problematic couples to refuse marriage counselling btw. Upz for them. Hope all turns out well, especially for their children.
Infidelity… As a partner, to have a husband cheat on me emotionally (aka no communication, basis of friendship not there etc) is 10 times worse than having him cheat on me physically.
His body is his, my body is mine, he can do whatever he wants to do with his body (minus STDs), but our trust and friendship must remain. Neo’s wife knew all this, and she didn’t go unreasonably ballistic as most Taiwanese/Korean drama fans would do in that situation. Maybe that trust kept the marriage together.
After all, the girls wanted sex to get their job. Neo wanted to use the girls as Kleenex tissue and clearly not looking for another partner. Fair exchange. What gives?
Totally non-news.
All in all, it’s about time people start realising that the beauty of humanity and relationships is our differences, and imposing certain morals/social standards/behavioral rules will kill society, as local mass media is gladly doing. To truly love is to accept all differences or compromise.
Juz my 2-cents.
Haha… I do agree that the news, not only locally, like to report on scandals… They do that mostly because – sex sells. Even my blog saw an increase of 8 times more readers in the past few days.
I was just surprised that there were people calling for boycotting Edison Chen… It was totally stupid, and I wasn’t asking people to boycott Jack Neo. But, why the double standards? In my opinion, what Jack Neo did was by far more cruel than Edison Chen. Infact, I don’t even think Edison Chen was at fault for anything at all. The “victims” in Edison Chen’s sex scandal were all willing parties. Are all the victims in Jack Neo’s scandal guilty of something?
I disagree with you that people should stop imposing certain morals/social standards/ behavioral rules. A society wouldn’t have peace if there isn’t a rough moral guideline to abide. Moreover, these guidelines are reflections of cultural, religious, historical acceptance of how humans should behave. Even though adultry isn’t a criminal offense in Singapore, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with people voicing out their unhappiness at Jack Neo’s irresponsible behavior towards his family.
However, before anyone starts saying that cheating is a non-news, or that what happened between Jack Neo is fair trade between him and the girls………… think about his family and his children. I’ve said so in my last post… When a home is broken, whether or not the parents are divorced or not, the children suffers the most. Should the society really be fine allowing Jack Neo to be such an irresponsible parent? Talk about sex and cheating and love in a marriage… how about Jack Neo betraying his children? Or should we be teaching our children that infidelity is acceptable and just love your father even though he loves his sex more than you?
Perhaps if the infidelity was committed once or twice under circumstances, we could still say that he slipped up. But the news is reporting that he potentially slept with dozens of women! He obviously enjoys philandering and have no regards to the people around him. What a selfish guy. You can’t expect to have a happy family and do such things. It’s just unfair expectations..
If sleeping around with dozens of women doesn’t grant Jack Neo’s wife to go ballistic on him… then how many women must Jack Neo fuck to grant her that right? Moreover, from what I read on Wendy Chong, she claimed Jack Neo wanted to commit suicide twice during the relationship and this was a 2 year relationship – obviously Jack Neo wasn’t in it for only the sex. Emotionally – in my opinion – that counts as a betrayal.
Maybe I’m the only girl here who’d stand by my husband regardless.
When you’re in love, you’re blind to everything around you.
I don’t have children yet, so I’m in no place to judge, but even more important than being that perfect parent is to show that everyone makes mistakes. What does being a responsible parent mean to all of you?
Being an irresponsible parent to me means hiding things away from your children, thinking that they don’t understand.
They do, and if parents like Neo took the time to explain to their children (especially in this case, Neo’s children aren’t exactly young) what you screwed up with, how you decide to make it better, apologise to your kids if needed, thank them for their support, your child (depending on how you brought them up) will most likely forgive you, yet be mature enough to know the consequences if they repeated the same thing when they’re older.
We’re always saying things like “for the children! for the children!”. Too often do we underestimate them though.
Children are amazing and the more we adults try to hide things away from them, dictate (as opposed to inspire and guide) them in their lives what’s right and what’s wrong without letting them develop their own set of morals and quirks, the further our parental relationship will be with them.
If done properly, Neo’s children might even mature more after this fiasco, depending on how he handles/explains this to them. This is family. One member commits a grave mistake, you don’t just abandon them. You support them wholeheartedly during their darkest moments. However this only applies if of course, Neo DID explain to the entire family. I admit that because he wasn’t honest with his family from the very start, his wife and children’s support should not be a given. Honesty is an integral part of trust.
What I’d teach my children from this though, is the fact that even though the support isn’t a given, his wife did it anyway. That is a woman’s true strength imo (I know a lot of feminists will come and bash me but yeah well
); relentless support for those we love. Same with how a good mother will always stand by her child and family. Notice that the emphasis is on what value we can learn from this, and not what we condone.
Whatever makes one happy ~~
it’s sweet that you’d stand-by your husband. To be honest, I’d forgive my husband if he makes a mistake too. What I can’t forgive, in this matter, is how his wife knew about the matter long ago and he supposedly apologised and asked for her forgivesness time and time again but yet… XI XING NAN GAI (bad nature difficult to change)! That shows how selfish he really is towards his family.
Even if his family forgives him, I’m really not too certain he appreciates them enough to stop his philandering acts.
Well, I’ve never said that I think Jack Neo’s wife should file for a divorce or that his family shouldn’t forgive him. I’m just thinking how can Jack Neo ever repair the mistrust, shame, stress on his family and will he ever be able to understand the importance of family. Seriously, if I were the wife and forgive him this last time and he betrays my trust again, I don’t think there’s much chance I’d forgive him anymore.
Actually his wife quite hot also, they could consider having an open marriage and his wife can have some sexual relief since his husband’s dick occupied else where. Haha. what do you think?
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