on Jun 20th, 2008Guy gives girl money, doesn’t make her his whore.
If someone were to offer you a lump sum of cash to help you out, let’s say, $48000… Would you accept it? Suspicious? If it was agreed that there were no strings attached and don’t have to return it and the person is someone you know and trust?
Some people feels that if you accept any money, that you owe something to them, it’s called fair trade? How about when people are donating for charity? Do they expect the poor and the sick to be indebted to them and owe them something?
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I had a friend who had a crazy boyfriend, and when they broke up, he went insane(er) and even tried to stalk her. One night she was out with me and we were going to go clubbing to celebrate her ditching the loser. Lo and behold, the creep was stalking us! I confronted him and asked him to go away and stop following her but instead, he shouted in my face vulgarities and disgusting words. Luckily my friend pushed him away or he would have hit me. The next thing to do was of course to get as far away from him as possible, so we hurled a taxi. That creep took another taxi and followed behind us! So I told the taxi to drive us to the nearest police station.
The police took the two of them to separate rooms and questioned the both of them.
That creep had the balls to say that my friend owes him money and so he’s following her! During their 1year+ relationship, he had offered to subsidies some of her handphone bills, some of her school fees and also gave her a set of jeweleries that probably cost thousands of dollars. Now that things gone sour, he wants it all back! The best part was, my friend was actually paying him back small amounts of money every month as she felt bad back then.
After this police case, she felt stupid and cheated by this man. But you can’t give things away and ask back for them when you feel like it! Like that, I don’t dare to receive any more presents even on my birthday 
The best part is, stalking is not under the police’s jurisdiction, not even if the man stalked us all the way to the police station. We have to seek legal help to sue him and get a restraining order. So unless this creep decides to rape/ murder/ rob/ steal from her, the police can’t do anything to stop him from stalking her!
Honestly, she felt that the police officers are siding his side of the story, that she owes him the money. Perhaps she was a little sensitive about what the police officers told her. But imagine a helpless girl getting stalked by an ex-boyfriend with a history of abusing her verbally and sometimes even physically!
Thank God that story ended well. She’s now happily married with another man.
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As for Jean, if you actually get to know her, you know that whatever names people are hurling at her are not true. It’s not that hard for you strangers to imagine what it is like if your loved ones were in her shoes. If it was your sister, or a dear friend, who got taken advantage of and in the process of trying to get justice, face with crowds of strangers screaming for her head, I’m sure you will be defending her and not yelling at her. I’m not asking you to pity her plight, but at least be kinder with your words or just keep quiet if you don’t have anything constructive to say.
*Note: the story about my friend happened many years ago and I wrote as best as I can recall the incident. 
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Glad things turned out really well for your friend
yes. I couldn’t more than agree with u
Glad your friend left his crazy ex-boyfriend.
I just think that most who know her are too quick to defend her and most who don’t know her are quick to insult her after reading the Newpaper article.
I wish everyone would wait for more facts to surface before killing or defending someone with the keyboard.
I’m not defending her just because she’s someone I know. But in ANY situation, receiving money doesn’t mean you deserve anything. It shouldn’t anyway.
Like saying a child is brought up by his parent’s money hence his parents can abuse him (sexually?). Doesn’t make sense.
IF she was really molested then the guy deserves to be punished SEVERELY for it.
IF she took the $48K thinking that it is a gift when the guy is asking for it back now, then she really needs to consider giving back the money.
It’s two separate issues here that unfortunately has to be brought under the same spotlight. I TOTALLY condemn any thought that the money is an excuse for abusing her sexually and I don’t think any person in the right frame of mind should think that way.